Thursday, March 30, 2006

The Power of Positive Thinking

I just heard this from a life coach - 99.9% of problems can be solved with positive thinking. For example - if you can talk yourself into believing you're beautiful, you will live being beautiful and even if you're butt-ugly the radiance and confidence you project will make people think you're just phenomenal! Another example given was that there are two types of fat people - the ones that abuse their bodies, eat all kinds of junk, wear sloppy clothes, and have no men in their lives. And then there are the happy fat women who are pretty, wear nice stuff, project the confidence and radiance. (eg Monique -this is who came to my mind when i heard this)

Now based on the book im reading, if you (picture yourself as a married woman- Imagination is KEY) come home and meet your husband in bed with another woman, please tell me what kind of positive thinking will make that problem disappear??
disclaimer*Its this book o - its making my mind wander when i shd be working hard*

Breakfast, The secret lives of Forunate Wives et more

OKkkk.. This morning I woke up at 4.22am dreaming about breakfast! I was dreaming about eggs - Sunny side up (over medium with some of the yolk still a bit runny yumm yumm) on toast. Imagine - dreaming about delicious food at 4am? Isn't it like a bad omen to dream about food anyways?? I don't know o... anyways so I decided that ok o this morning when I got to work I will go and buy breakfast. For once, I got to work at 8 on the dot; went to A&W cos they have a nice bacon and egger breakfast thingie but I don't like the bun so I proceeded to tell them that I wanted a bacon and egger without the bacon but with sausage and toast instead of the bun right just like in my dream of course with my eggs over hard cos I don't trust these restaurant people - their interpretation of my food is NEVER the same as mine. The babe at the counter put me to the side right... like I had to wait for my food -18 freakin minutes!!!!! That's what it took to get me my food but boy! when I opened the package, it was worth the wait. Infact its still next to me but I just cant finishit right now - Im too full!!!

I am currently reading
The Secret Lives of Fortunate Wives by Sarah Strohmeyer and boy o boy - it is a good book that made my imagination run amok!! Now some people might regard this kind of book as chick lit/ fluff or whatever you want to call it based on the back blurb which says "Sex and the City lives only in reruns - the real action has moved to the suburbs." but that was what caught my attention!! In this day of Desperate Housewives and wives killing their husbands (that's another story altogether) this book made me want an inside peek at Rich REALLY RICH wives who were not working and how they occupied their time and what kind of tragedies befell them!!
The main character of this book is a woman whose full time job is making sure her house is furnished very well to high heavens, her children are going to the best schools to prepare them for Yale and such Icy League schools and that she is maintained in the best possible way for her husband - same husband who is hardly at home to see his botoxed, nipped & tucked, 40 something size 2 wife because he is supposedly at work - working so hard making all the millions as a stock broker. Now, this story is not anything new as anyone with Chick lit tendencies like me know but there is a twist to this story - well several twists:

  • The story is set in Hunting Hills Cleveland!!! and not Park Avenue or the usual NY suburbia tale
  • The millionaire husband is having an affair with his wife's best friend why you ask - because he's a loser IMO
  • The millionaire husband is also a fraudster - he's a stock broker that has lied to his clients about 20% returns in a market that can NEVER return that much - if anybody promises you that much and you're not investing at least 10 million dollars - RUN!
  • Husband is discovered as a fraudster and decides to bail town, leaving message on wives answering machine that he is leaving her and their marriage is over - meanwhile wife has no work experience or tangible job qualifications as she's been too busy maintaining herself as the wife of a rich man
  • The wife is now left alone, with no money, no husband and the first thing that comes to her mind is get a job ??? WRONG!!!!! She immediately makes herself pretty, buys some nice designer clothes or something and is on the prowl immediately for a replacement BAZILLIONAIRE husband!! haha not a bad plan B abi?

    Now, so to make the story more applicable to moi, I have decided to change the town setting from Cleveland to lagos Nigeria. Husband is rich and has a lot of money - check, husband is having an affair - check, not out of place as in husband having an affair with just one woman is wierder than him having just having AN affair. Wife is a housewife - check, usually with some kind of business on the side, be it selling gold, making cakes, selling lace, bags etc

    So if husband (usually Dr. something or Chief somebody or Alhaji something) is nabbed by the EFCC as having tiffed a lot of money and put in jail or he absconds to Canada- what do you think the average Nigerian woman will do next?? Run to Canada with her tiffing husband and survive on the stolen money, stay back in Nigeria and try to make a living on her own with her children, look for an even richer tiff or what do you think?? Food for thought ay......

    Wednesday, March 29, 2006

    I got tagged!

    I had decided to retire my 'blog' jersey and hand in the blogger card u know cos i actually enjoy reading other blogs than writing!! go figure abi.. but then i got tagged by Kunle and so to continue to be a good sport i figured i'd give it a go since i want to talk about my perfect lover!!!

    These are the Rules:If I tag you, you have to do the following:1. The tagged victim must come up with 10 different points of their perfect lover.2. Need to mention gender of target.3. Tag 8 victims to join this game and leave a comment saying they've been tagged.4. If tagged again, there's no need to post a 2nd time.

    The man of my dreams hmmmm:
    * Has to fear and respect God o - because that way he knows he is accountable for his actions and cannot do me anyhow if you know what i mean
    * Has to be attractive to me - prefarably only me because as long as i think he's fine and nobody else thinks so thats ok cos the less attention on him from outside INFLUENCES the better!
    * He should be well rounded - ie he should have the right balance of intellectualism as well as goofyism, charmism, sex appealism too!!! He should be able to teach me some things about life, the world in general, economics and money matters as well as being open to learn things that i have learned. Hmmm that makes sense to me but hey its my perfect lover abi not yours!
    * We should connect on all levels especially emotional - He should understand me completely (my moods, my shakara etc) and deal with it well infact he should be the one that changes my moodiness to happiness and shakaras me back without being arrogant.
    * He should worship me - noooo not worship like im God but think the world of me and think he's the luckiest man alive because he is anyways and really mean it not take the piss.
    * He should call me back if i hang up! Thats a must...
    * He should be financially stable - i dont like borrowing boyfriends money and then asking for it back!! I can dash you if i feel like it but dont come and ask me to borrow you money except in dire situations and then FORGET to give me back.
    * He cannot be controlling or possessive, have a good sense or humor and understand my bag habits

    I think I may be taking this perfect lover thingie seriously but hey thats what I would want in a perfect world.

    ohhhhh i need to tag some people too - so i tag Magusi soup, Bent out of shape, and anyone else who has not been tagged already. Have fun guys!